Keep that definition in mind, we will return to it.
Who holds the power in your relationship. If your a D-type (in this case the Dom, the Master) and think it's you then you need to think about that again. Without the s-type (your submissive or slave) to control then your just a lonely person masturbating into the sheets.
The s-type gives you control over them in a voluntary fashion. Even though we real life "Goreans" may claim that our slaves are owned and their are no such things as "safe words" we also understand that our girl is precious and valuable to us. That her submission really and truly is a gift to us. She gives us to body, her trust and, if we are truly lucky, her heart and soul. She gives us everything in the hope that we will not push her to far, hurt her to much and give her direction and security.
Now lets return to that definition for a moment. We act upon them. We perform actions upon them to obtain a desired result. We may flog them as punishment, we may flog them to obtain a orgasm out of them. We move them in a direction that we want them to go.
However...remember the sheets?
A s-type can only move at a certain pace. We can push, we can prod. We can drag her kicking and screaming by the leash around her neck. The truth is this. She has to be willing and able to get to point B from point A in her own time. She has to be ready and willing to accept what fate you have planned for her.
If your relationship is either strictly online or if your a real life Gorean couple the truth is this. We D-types can only move as fast as the s-types in our lives allow us to.
It is our job to LISTEN to them. That does not mean that they are always right, that does not mean that they should be treated as a princess. What that does mean is that our slaves will get to the point we want them to be at. It may be a week, a year or ten years...but they want to be at the point too!
We just have to act on them accordingly. They need to act on themselves to face their fears and insecurities. We need to cuddle with them at times, and other times throw them in a cage. But without listening to them...we will never know what they need.
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"Without the s-type (your submissive or slave) to control then your just a lonely person masturbating into the sheets."
I use to say that! She is the reason and the source of our power.
Excellent post, Sir.
It brings to mind a problem I have seen circulating in SL and Rl lately. Communication is great, but what should a Master do when a slave doesn't KNOW what she needs?
This seems to happen quite often. It takes some deep self-reflection to know the difference between what we WANT vs. what we need. If a slave has not done that internal exploration, there is no way she can communicate that to her Master.
Many think the answer is (as you put it) "to through on a pair of silks and go "Take me Master!" and then get upset when Master does whatever he wants.
Yes, Masters have to listen--but slaves need to be able to communicate, too.
Part 2 Dannah LOL!
Truthfully though...your probably better qualified to answer that than I am. What influenced this column was exactly what you stated. She didn't know what she wanted or how to express it. Only that it was more intense than she expected it to be.
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